"Well, there is only one piece of advice I can give you," said the wisest of wise men. "The secret of happiness is to see all the marvels of the world and never to forget the drops of oil on the spoon."



('The Alchemist' Paulo Coelho)




Tuesday, June 05, 2007

My reply

Thanks for all the comments so far. Dale, I think you are right about the desire to nurture and be nurtured being experienced by both men and women. YP, women too, 'look out wistfully on potential conquests' and this is where the difference comes, I think. Whereas men are wistful and then move on, women tend to get stuck there and find it hard to move on. Is it all to do with men's ability to compartmentalise their lives or maybe women's desire to nurture? It seems to me that women have an almost infinite capacity to forgive neglectful or thoughtless treatment by the men in their lives and find it so hard to give up on a bad job and walk away.

7 comments:

Dale said...

How true! Both Kelly and Donna waited far too long before kicking me out! I wish that women would find ways to FORCE men to listen to them. Maybe then, they could act to repair the damage before the relationship was irretrievably lost.
And I wish men would bloody well LISTEN!

Personally, it's taken me over five years to recover fully from Donna. She moved on almost immediately, with that wanker from Holland.

I know I could never live with her again, as I'm not the man I was then. But seldom does a day pass without me thinking of her.

Yorkshire Pudding said...

What is a man anyway? What is a woman? In the first place we are just people - the rest is just extra.

Arthur Clewley said...

you don't teach biology then YP

Jennyta said...

Nice one, Arthur! But I understand what you are saying, YP.

Jennyta said...

Thanks so much for your insight, Dale. But what you say about Donna moving on is exactly what puzzles me. I think that in some cases at least, women 'move on' to someone else as an escape from the hurt of the broken relationship but I'm not at all convinced that it is the solution. Inside they are often unable to move on.

gemmak said...

My opinion....that it's specific to individuals but that as a rule men rely on their relationships to the same degree as women...... tho perhaps in some instances for different reasons. The biggest difference is perhaps mans reticence to in many cases to admit to themselves or others, any degree of emotional dependence.

Certainly I agree women are too willing too forgive/forget bad treatment and to hang about too long when they should be getting the hell out.

Jennyta said...

'The biggest difference is perhaps mans reticence to in many cases to admit to themselves or others, any degree of emotional dependence.'
I think you've hit the nail on the head there, Gem.

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